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Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Beyonce: Deconstructing The Myth

Queen B, King Bey, Sasha Fierce, Beyonce- all are stage names, titles of a multi-million dollar brand. Showbiz. It is what it is, for your entertainment. Whenever fans and onlookers expect more from entertainment than entertainment is capable of, bad things result. Also, whenever entertainers like Beyonce venture into areas outside of their expertise: like acting, politics and self-help movements, results are often mixed or even dreadful. So the simmering anti-Beyonce movement brewing under the heels of The "Bow-Down" Pop Princess is partly her own fault and partly a result of unrealistic expectations on the part of her fans.

People do not really hate Beyonce. No one knows her outside of her own personal friends and family, that's a fact. Beyonce detractors hate what Beyonce and her fans stand for: glorified female hypocrisy.

Her love life is relatively private yet she dances like a burlesque dancer that looks like she's a she-devil in the sack and can ride a wild bull for hours. She speaks of female empowerment, women "sticking together" to "run the world" and "independence". Yet she is the product of two successful parents, her father managed her to international fame and she went from her father's arms to her husband's wings. Unlike the many single mothers, unwed females, daughters without father figures and economically challenged fans that worship her as if she's "one of them." Beyonce went from the cradle to another cradle.

From a marketing standpoint, Beyonce has been positioned as the "drug dealer's girlfriend" to inner city black women, "the modern Tina Turner (minus Ike episode)" to white women, "the world's best burlesque dancer" to husbands and boyfriends, "the business mogul with pole skills" to business women with risque tendencies and overall, each image lures sub-sets of fans into their own Beyonce Experience. Genius marketing, period. That's entertainment at it's best in my opinion.

Yet a dose of "humble pie" is in order at times with all stars. Intelligence can be measured in many ways and it's clear, Beyonce should speak sparingly. Her reasoning is childlike at best, it's clear she's been trained to perform NOT think and speak. She was smart enough to put smarter people in charge of Beyonce, Inc. When she deviates what you see is that awful mockumentary/promo, that idiotic song "Bow Down" and fake singing for the President! Listen, when you step outside of the protective walls of ENTERTAINMENT, you can't stand next to the first black First Lady, co-sign her health initiative and then put your face and star power behind Pepsi (which is liquid crack for black people in the ghetto, by the way). Outside of entertainment, you can't make public statements about female empowerment in hopes of harnessing a feminist movement and then call women "bitches"- notice she's made no apology or explanation yet? Bad moves that only highlight one thing:

Beyonce is nothing more than a sheltered middle class girl that always wanted to be like the girls in the 'hood so she learned to dance like a stripper, sing like a baby Tina Turner and dress like a burlesque dancer to impress the Houston 'hood rats she never fit in with. As a result, the most hardcore segment of Beyonce fans are the same girls that were the drug dealer girlfriends, female hustlers and 'hood divas she fantasized becoming. The only difference between Beyonce and this segment of her fan base is that most drug dealer girlfriends are visiting cemeteries and prisons. Most strippers and burlesque dancers don't get endorsement deals. Most "single ladies" stay single. Most women never stick together because of jealousy.

This is real simple from my perspective. Beyonce pimped the dollars of women that will never be where she is, didn't have the same family structure she had, didn't get the successful drug-dealer-turned-business-mogul fantasy and got to dance like a stripper but still be called a lady. Most exotic dancers get called hos and a good day for them is a rainy one, not so for Queen B. In other words, she did what most rappers have done for decades, pretend to be a gangsta, pimp or player in the studio and sell the music to those really living the life but also experiencing the most negative outcomes. This gave her "street cred" with black women and white women bought it to follow the trend and become interesting to their white friends- like white boys got turned out by black rappers.  Same marketing model, same outcomes. That's game people. Misery loves a good song to listen to when riding around in the car or strutting around at the local nightclub fantasizing of one day being the myth.  

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Coco: Dumb Ho or Smart Ho?

Pimp down.  It happens.  You can turn a ho into a housewife but you can't take the ho out of the wife- you can only aim to manage the track such a woman walks on.

No debate about this: Ice-T made the business of Coco.  From image to opportunities, Nicole "Coco" Austin received a firm pimp hand into the game to become a formidable earner over a significant period of time.  Nicole Austin’s career began at the young age of 6, when she began dancing in jazz, tap, and ballet productions. At 18, Austin began doing work as a swimsuit and lingerie model.  She also put in work at Hugh Hefner’s famous Playboy Mansion, working in various capacities at the magazine’s special events there.  In 2011, Coco began the phase of her career that’s gained her the most fame: Reality Star. The program is called Ice Loves Coco, which premiered on the E! channel on June 12 of that year. The show has managed to be quite popular despite the climate of many different reality TV shows featuring low-and-mid-grade celebrities.  

Worth millions at this point of her career, why in the world would Coco allow no-name rapper AP.9 to apparently hold significant leverage over her marriage, career and reputation?  

Sure, onlookers will claim she's just a stupid ho.  Critics will say, "What did Ice-T expect?  She's doing what hos do."  At first glance, I admit- Coco the rich ho just did a dumb, poor ho move.

Upon closer examination, my hunch tells me otherwise.  Is she dumb OR are we looking at a "cuckolding" situation gone too far?

For those unfamiliar with the term cuckolding: A cuckold fetishist is completely aware of his spouse's activity and even encourages it and derives sexual leasure from it.

Each cuckold has their reasons for this fetish.  Behind it is the need to feel jealousy to stimulate sexual arousal.  The wife uses her sexual prowess to seduce other men, while the husband (cuck) derives pleasure from it.  This may seem extreme to the common eye, but this fetish is behind many interracial sexual fantasies, particularly those involving white wives that prefer black men.  There are various extremes of the cuckolding fetish too.  Some husbands enjoy watching their wives flirt or tease, some enjoy watching their wives have sex with other men, some even "breed" their wives out to black men to produce babies!

While traditional minded onlookers watch Ice-T and Coco's situation and assume it's a marriage on the rocks because Coco is an undisciplined, unfaithful ho.  As an experienced flesh purveyor, my take is that Coco is doing what she's signed up to do for her man.  Sure, Ice-T was once a bonafide pimp.  But he retired from that role years ago to pursue other things, including marriage to Coco.  Consider this, a pimp sees all kinds of sexual situations, fetishes and preferences when dealing with hos and the tricks that worship women of the night.  Leaving that world to reside in more mainstream waters is bound to have some affect on anyone.

Is it possible that Coco has always "posed" for pictures and such with other men as part of the marriage's "private sexual fetish" rule?  The only thing that went wrong is that Coco possibly picked the wrong "mark" (Ap.9) for her sexual fantasy play with her husband, an uncooperative character unwilling to be discreet about the fact that he suspects or knows that Ice-T is Coco's cuckold.

If Ice-T is indeed a cuckold, Coco isn't a dumb ho, she's a smart ho that found the perfect cuckold to set her up, build her career, make her rich and then stay by her side during this "marital crisis" as AP.9 hints that he also has nude pictures of Coco as well.

REMEMBER THIS.  The way you will be able to tell if this is a cuckold situation- watch how Ice-T responds to all of this.  If he leaves, Coco is a dumb ho that got caught slipping.  If Ice stays, Coco is a smart ho that secured her cuckolded sugar daddy by way of providing him the "fix" he can't resist.  That's game, watch and learn from the Rich Ho Testament- Poor Ho, Rich Ho: From Hos to Housewives...

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

All Sex is About Love

A woman not involved in the fast life recently wrote me and asked an interesting question: "Is all sex about love?"  

Here's my opinion: All sex is about love.  Many will scoff at such a claim.  But it’s true.  All sex is about love.
Many women will recall the men that didn’t love them before, during or after sex.  Another group of women may boldly proclaim they didn’t love many of the men they had sex with any more than the men loved them.  So all sex can’t be about love, right?
Wrong.  I didn’t claim that all sex is love.  I wrote that all sex is about love.  There’s a difference in the two statements.
To say all sex is love means that perverse realities like pornography, rape and molestation are love.  We all know those things hardly represent love.  Quite the opposite is the case.
But to claim that all sex is about love means you must accept the following:  sex is a demonstration of love, a fulfillment of love or a search for love due to an absence of love.
Love puts the highest value and stakes on your sexuality.  It gives intercourse a higher purpose.  Making all sex about love demonstrates one’s value of time also.
Have you ever had meaningless sex?  Do you believe sex can occur with no strings attached?  Sex that “just happens” or “is just for fun” but supposedly “doesn’t mean anything” because neither person expects anything from each other afterwards- represents a false illusion.
The truth is: there is no such thing as meaningless sex.  All sex means something because it takes time to indulge in sexual expeditions.  Time can’t be replaced once it is gone, which makes every moment worth something since we can’t reverse time.  Go to any funeral and listen to how living relatives and friends suddenly get a profound appreciation for time as they search for meaning in every memory of the deceased’s actions. 
I wonder if a person died while having a one night stand how the living relatives and friends would label the deceased’s last sexual experience.  Would it be labeled as just meaningless sex?  Or would it be perceived as a demonstration, fulfillment or search for love?
If you want to know the true reasons for your sexual actions, consider your own sexual code.  Your sexual code is what determines if you decide to be intimate with a man.  Ask yourself the following questions:
How did you learn about sex?  What was your first sexual experience?  How did your first sexual encounter take place?  What elements drive your sexual alter ego?  What kinds of sensual fantasies do you have?  How satisfying are your intimate encounters?  What do you find yourself craving most during your heightened states of sensual awareness?  How many sexual partners have you had? 
The answers to all those questions are the layers of intrigue that create your sexual code.  What rests at the core of your sexual code is the very reason you indulge in sex.  Men that make love to you well understand important parts of your sexual code.  Men that simply do not please you in bed are lacking insight on your sexual code. 
However, do not mistake an outstanding sexual experience as love.  If you do, you’re forgetting one very important fact:  every man you have sex with is not always looking for love or willing to accept and give love at the same time you are.  Timing is even more important when deciding to engage in sex.
If you make all sex about love you will see clearer purpose in your love life, make the most of time and attract men that value your affections the way you cherish your own sensual graces.  Know your spirit, trust your spirit and make all sex about love.  Not every woman is cut out to play the fast lane.

Monday, November 26, 2012

New Year, New Game? Join a New Team

Nearing 2013 some female hustlers are right where they started in 2012.

Still doing club appearances but not getting paid a significant cut of appearance, admission fees or sponsorship dollars?

Still don't have an agent or manager?

Still don't have a real brand or public identity to leverage into opportunities?

Still clamoring to get into VIP events to hopefully catch a glimpse or even meet a man rich enough to change your tax bracket in one night?

Still claiming you're going to lose weight, get fit, grow hair, update your wardrobe or get some real professional pictures to showcase?

Still getting cheap thrills off of how many "likes" or "comments" you get on Facebook instead of booking paying gigs in a real magazines?

For those ladies serious about themselves and not just looking for cheap self-esteem boosts on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter or You Tube- stop faking and start making.  Stop frontin' and book something.  Stop posing for free and up your fees!

These cheap knock-off broads are hurting themselves, trying too hard, wearing too little and doing too many favors for fake promoters, over-the-hill rappers and low rent producers using you as stepping stones to attract better women.  Don't play yourself.  I've seen a number of so-called female models on line trying to get fans, begging for attention and getting way too excited about comments from the same local bombs that only tell you that you're attractive because they know your self-esteem will believe it.  Some of you need clearer skin, better outfits, stylists, gym trainers and most of all- actual talent.

Here's a tip, if you stand next to Amber Rose, Kim Kardashian, Karrine Stephans, Angel, Evelyn or any of the top female personalities actually making real money- would you still be worth looking at or would you fade into the background?  If you can't stand next to a real model or top actress and still look appealing, you are nothing more than a dillusional fan being lied to by third rate promoters going for quantity over quality.  In other words, they just need bodies at the parties and you're an extra.  Always will be.

On the other hand, for you standouts, true thoroughbred models and female hustlers with public speaking ability, acting skills and business minds it's time to take your local hustle to the next level.  You need a team, a manager and a plan.  Don't go into 2013 with the same team that can't seem to bring anyone to the party except the same people you see in the grocery store near your house.  It's time to grow up in 2013, serious ladies know who to contact, results guaranteed.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Kiss and Tale?

Let's face it.  Secrets are secrets to avoid discovery, hurt or embrassment.  What people do not know can only hurt, embarass or disrupt if unveiled.  Secrets are powerful truths that not only control the people involved but the status quo mindsets of the people the secrets are kept from.

Just think about the power of secrets.  The peace of mind of the wife of a cheating husband is in the hands of some lustful, opportunistic mistress.  The pride and joy of the father to a daughter secretly moonlighting as an adult entertainer could be in the hands of some gentleman's club owner or porn producer.  Secrets control those in the know and those clueless to the facts- power.

In the world of mistresses, secrets take on extra dimensions.  While the husband or boyfriend goes home to the wife or girlfriend with lips as tight as locked caskets in a graveyard.  The Other Woman goes home to sleep alone, harbor her trysts into the recesses of her mind and wait for the next opportunity to see the man of another woman.  Often overlooked is the added sacrifice mistresses make when dealing with attached men: they often forsake traditional dating and even family lives to do so.

If propositioned by another man, a wife can state, "I'm married."  The mistress may say, "It's complicated" or "I am involved already" but inside she thinks, "Am I passing up being number one to a man to be a mistress, am I going to regret this moment?"

On Holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years families gather.  The wife greets relatives and friends at the side of her husband with entitlement.  The mistress may appear at her own family gatherings alone fielding questions from friends and family like, "When are we going to see your boyfriend?"  "How long are you going to be single?"

Eventually mistresses learn to field inquisitions into their love lives with carefully rehearsed phrases like, "I'm dating but nothing serious," "I'm seeing someone but I don't want to talk about it until I know it's serious," "I don't like to discuss my personal life."  But inside, these Other Women want to scream to the world, "He really wants to be with me," "He left his wife for me," "We love each other."  But they can't share openly.  No one can know.  Secret relationship require discretion.

So what happens to Other Women when they can't share their secrets, good times, feelings and hopes with someone?  What takes place in their minds when they can't tell their friends and family about their relationships?  After all, would friends and family gladly say, "As long as you are happy with being second to his wife, everything will be good.  Don't mess it up.  You've got a good thing happening"?  Slim chance, right?

Secrets make mistresses lonely.  Arguments, good times, great memories are all tucked away into the secret places of a mistress's mind and heart.  All to protect the life, marriage and maybe even families of the men they are sharing with wives.  To what end do the mistresses reach as they shut off a parts of themselves for the sake of a married men?

I always tell women in these situations to have at least one confidant they can trust.  While secrets may protect married men, what about the well being and even safety of mistresses?  Whether the confidant is a family member or close friend, someone needs to know.  Mistresses place themselves in very compromising situations to sneak around with married men.  Someone should know where a mistress spends her secret times just in case the fantasy takes a turn into the realm of nightmare or ends abruptly like a horrible night terror.

Besides, secrets only have as much power as people allow.  Why should mistresses allow themselves to be secrets more vulnerable to the status of obscurity?  With a confidant and possible witness, mistresses ensure their own stint in the wings is protected and possibly witnessed.  More importantly, if the experience proves worthwhile, the book or story of the mistress may need a foreword by the secret confidant!  :)



Sunday, November 18, 2012

3 Secrets Scandalous Women Know About Powerful, Rich Men

Delilah seduced Samson.

Paula Broadwell conquered David Patraeus, leader of America's CIA!

"Hotwife" Heather Clem cuckolded her husband and lured Hulk Hogan and many other high profile sports personalities.

Karinne "Superhead" Stephans ensnared countless Hip Hop rainmakers and public personalities into her web of sensual intrigue.

Heidi Fleiss ruled the impulses of Charlie Sheen.

Marilyn Monroe enticed JFK.

In many instances, expert Jezebels and Delilahs stroll into the hallways, onto the gridiron, hardwood courts and slip backstages with little resistence.  Some of these women layer themselves as writers, artists, photographers, models, agents, stylists, socialites or even simple interns.  Hence the first secret of the successful Scandalous Woman is:

Secret #1: Powerful Men Get Off On Challenges.

Contrary to oversimplified beliefs, these woman are not stupid, gullable or even naive.  They are shrewd, calculating and business minded.  In other words, don't let the short skirt or pouty lips deceive you, these ladies are smart networking specialists with tenacity of investigative reporters.  Like undercover law enforcement, they take on the roles and become the characters they need to be in order to establish credibility.  Professional skills, confidence, articulate grasp of language and most of all intuitive insight are common characteristics which help lady libertines get their heels in the door to meet the people that make decisions.

Imagine this: IQ of 156, member of MENSA, performed at Carnegie Hall on the piano twice by the age of 15 and earned a full scholarship to Rutgers University.  Don't imagine anymore, I just described multimillionair porn star Asia Carrera.

Delilah was a government informant.  Paula Broadwell is an established academic and writer.  Heather Clem is a model. Karinne Stephans is a model turned writer.  Heidi Fleiss started as an upscale escort.  Marilyn Monroe started as a model and actress.

The point: Powerful men prefer women that have some type of intriguing profession which requires great conversational skills, presentation abilities and business instincts.  Dumb women cannot keep up with smart women.  Smart women know how to put up a reasonably interesting challenge.  Powerful men like challenges.  A woman can be a maid in the home of a powerful couple and seduce the husband because the turn-on for the husband is that the maid must still keep up appearances in front of the wife, ask Mildred Baena- maid to Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver.  The dance of deception and daring makes men stiff as baseball bats.  It's that simple.

Secret #2: Power = Drugs and Alcohol.

Ever made a decision while intoxicated or high that you would not have made if sober?  Sure you have.  Power intoxicates. Men of power are often behaving on the longest buzz or high as their power allows.  Just as marijuana or alcohol creates different types of highs on various smokers and drinkers, power affects men in the same manner.  Ever gotten high or drunk with a man only to regret getting high or drunk with him because you didn't like how he handled his high around you?  What happens is the woman avoids that situation again and finds the right guy to get high with.    

So scandalous vixens know their own specialities and tolerences.  They learn how to hunt for and seduce the men that exhibit the types of "power highs" most susceptible to their specialized charms so they can get high off the power together.  Consequently, when you see a powerful man caught in a very public scandal that makes you ask, "Why in the world did he do that with her, he knows she's just after him because of his status?"  Answer: The man isn't looking for love, he was just looking for a woman to get high as hell with!

Secret #3:  Powerful Men Have An APRON FETISH!

Aprons protect clothes as a person cooks.  Chefs wear aprons.  Stereotypically, women wear aprons in the kitchen.  It's been said that men visualize women naked wearing aprons in the kitchen.  So the apron is really underwear masquarading as outerwear cloting.  What does this mean?

The seductive intentions of scandelous vixens are like customized aprons, they can be worn in public over everyday appearances but imply to the right onlookers that they will be catered to, serviced and satisfied in a very personalized way.  Powerful, rich men can pay for VIP service, customized products, exclusive perks and luxury items.  What makes the best seductresses just as powerful as their entranced suitors is that they know how to pick the right aprons for the right men at the right time.  What kind of apron can you put on to get the type of rainmaker you want?