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Sunday, November 20, 2011

Home of the Reality Movement: The Mind Of Kim Kardashian: Boycott Kim Kardashian...

Home of the Reality Movement: The Mind Of Kim Kardashian: Boycott Kim Kardashian...: A ho will be a ho. I'm no moral expert or self-righteous pundit. Kim K. makes money for one simple reason: she's a very attractive "bad gu...

The Mind Of Kim Kardashian: Boycott Kim Kardashian...Here's What She May Be Thinking

A ho will be a ho.  I'm no moral expert or self-righteous pundit.  Kim K. makes money for one simple reason: she's a very attractive "bad guy."

Let me explain.  At best, the Kardashian team are marketing experts.  They weaved a perfect public story.

Face facts, circumstances and hard work positioned Mama K., she positioned her girls in the right place around powerful people and they capitalized.  At first, Kim was simply pegged as another rich brat packer, a so-called "stylist" that rubbed shoulders with showbiz types, dated black producers and athletes and was the daughter of a woman married to a famous lawyer.

One clever step at a time, one negotiated mistake later, the Kim K. sex tape leaks under the guise of "rich non-black socialite goes slumming with black R & B dude and gets caught!"  The birth of a reality "porn" star is born.

Sure, Kim K. cries foul, claims she was "betrayed" and could have stopped the distribution of the tape.  But what did she do?  Accept the cash, cut a good residual deal with the distributor to keep the cash flowing because of one very interesting public question: is she really a dumb ho or can she prove to be worth more than a sex tape gal?"

The drama ensues.  The public now watches Kim K.  Was she really an exploited, betrayed girlfriend of a womanizer that "put her on blast" with the sex tape or was she a very clever closet porn star?  Is she really a classy gal worthy of the same respect and adoration as other female public figures with talents ranging from acting, singing, politics or music?  Or is she just another stupid but pretty rich girl that gets more chances to make good because of her money than any "regular joe" would get in multiple lifetimes?  Was she in on the sex tape leak the whole time, is she really "that kind of girl"?  Is she real or a fraud?

No matter what position you take, the drama is fascinating and lures viewers.  So here we are.  My explanation:

She's a fascinating "good girl" cast as once the victim of a scandalous betrayal by way of a sex tape (http://kimksuperstar.com/).  But as time went on, she capitalized greatly on the very thing that she was supposedly so hurt and destroyed by.  Only to snag endorsements, star in a reality show, date more rich black athletes and make millions of dollars more- all while still selling a sex tape!  This chick is the role model for any aspiring porn star!  Yet she rubs shoulders with every type of celebrity and shot caller worth knowing.  Then the question emerged: would any man ever marry her knowing that anyone could get a fantastical piece of her simply by visiting a website and putting in a credit card number?

Sure enough, Kim K. finds a suitor.  Poor guy.  But hey, hos know a mark when they see one.  He was perfect, biracial (not her usual chocolate tastes) but an NBA player.  Perhaps she's changed?  Maybe she's abandoned her ways?  She even stages a multimillion dollar wedding on television!  Less than 3 months later she gets divorced!  Are we really surprised?  No.  But guess what?

The public is STILL watching her.  I'm going to make this simple for everyone.

In her mind she's thinking this:

"Ok. Everyone knows I prefer dating black men that prefer non-black women with black girl booties, I can fit the profile.  I'm smart but I have a weakness for doing some risque things when men that are players and preferably rich or on the financial up-and-up.  I'd never deal with a broke nigga, everyone knows that.

White boys hate going out with girls like me because the thought of fucking me after so many black men is somewhat intimidating and they'd be ashamed to be seen with me in public.  So upscale black guys with money is my market.  Now that this sex tape is out I have cash flow and a constant reminder to all the men out there that I'm a freak.  Black women are jealous because I get the men they want but can't.  White women fantasize about my lifestyle but are often too afraid to do what I do.  I'm going to be a taboo indulgence for most people that watch me.

I'm not that talented but I can market myself well.  The public knows I'm not talented but they underestimate my intelligence because they think I'm the poor gal on the leaked sex tape or the dumb chick on the sex tape.  They will be watching to see if I can redeem myself, hold my head up and put that tape behind me.  I can capitalize.  The tape remains, they will buy it.  I will distance myself from it to secure the eyes of those that watch the sex tape and those that want to see if I fail at being a public figure.  Not many of my fans will want to see me succeed.  Sure I will have lots of misguided girls that have done what I've done for free and only been exploited with you tube videos or camera phones of ex-boyfriends, but they will never get the endorsements I get so they can be my real fans who can relate to me.

They key to my success will be the "double negative" marketing approach.  The sex tape reminds the public that I'm slutty, but my reality show reminds the public that I'm just a regular gal trying to move forward with my life and put the past behind me.  I have created my own drama that seems impossible to overcome and impossible not to watch.

All I have to do is act like the sex tape never happened and that I'm just "looking for true love", which will give my audience a chance to have some sympathy for me and hope that I can.  In truth, none of them will want to admit that they hope I fail, deserve to be the forgotten slut on the sex tape and think that I'm nothing but a fraud.  They would rather hide behind my lies and secretly watch my life play out like voyeuristic vultures in the privacy of their own home.

To publicly state that they hate me would show they are jealous and weak, no one wants to admit that.  Even if some haters emerge, they will only fuel my fame.  Besides, a great uproar over my antics will never emerge because most people don't think I'm talented or worth any real organized efforts to expose my marketing strategies.  After all, it's just entertainment.  Hell, I'm already on a sex tape, if I can withstand that then I can handle anything from the public.  Fuck it, what have I got to lose?  At the very least, I'll have a shit load of money by the time these people figure out how a pimped the shit out of this game!"

That's the genius of the perfect pretty "bad guy."            

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Home of the Reality Movement: The Help...Here's A Thought.

Home of the Reality Movement: The Help...Here's A Thought.: "I've been reading so many reviews about this film. What strikes me as interesting is that many white women over 45 years old have posted rev..."

The Help...Here's A Thought.

I've been reading so many reviews about this film. What strikes me as interesting is that many white women over 45 years old have posted reviews and mentioned their "beloved maids" while praising how much of an inspiration these maids were to them and their families. What has not been mentioned by any of the people that posted reviews on this page and others, is that to many black people their praise and admiration for these maids is very similar to how pet owners express fondness for their property! What these "employers" need to remember is that many black women could not find other work, had been groomed through the brutality of slavery to accept such tasks with a smile and simply were trying to survive under unfair and inhumane life circumstances. Furthermore, to convince themselves that a black maid in the south would have willingly served them out of the kindness of their hearts post-slavery era is just silly. As these "righteous white" reminisce of when they were tended to hand and foot by smiling maids that were really doing the best they could though their opportunities were limited, they should remember that you can go to any 3 - 5 star hotel and pay for such great service and smiles today. Just because the bell hop smiles in your face and calls your kids cute, doesn't mean they love you sincerely. In short, black maids were just trying to make a living and did their best to remain human by embracing what parts of humanity they were allowed to experience as women and mothers. It's what people do when they are deprived and seeking hope for better days. The smiles of maids just made white women feel better about exploiting these black women. It's ironic that the very author of The Help is now being sued by a maid close to her own family for...exploitation without permission. What a crazy world we live in.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Home of the Reality Movement: The Help....Here we go again!

Home of the Reality Movement: The Help....Here we go again!: "I've been waiting for THE HELP to be released. To me, it had the chance to highlight an often overlooked theme within America's racist histo..."

The Help....Here we go again!

I've been waiting for THE HELP to be released. To me, it had the chance to highlight an often overlooked theme within America's racist history: the dynamic between black women and white women. The truth is, white women have always received the best of both worlds when it comes to racism. There men commit violent acts, segregate society attempt to monopolize power, while white women get to experience the fruits of racist efforts executed by their men. Also, white women know how to be racist with a "smile" as they have been groomed for centuries around powerful establishments, so they know how to play the game around kings and rich men all while being serviced by the oppressed and placed on a cultural pedestal by their men. White women have countless positive role models in popular media culture so they are told daily that they are special, beautiful and worth extra praise and admiration- a prize or trophy with star appeal. All while black women clean their footsteps and accept secondary status as "the best friend", "confidant" and "personal life coach or assistant" to help soothe the white woman's woes. As a man, I can see this clearly. What undermines the possibility of black women ever establishing themselves as more than "angry hos, single mothers, groupies, maids and assistants" is when black women support crap like THE HELP and walk out with a smile as if it's really a "feel good movie." It's a lullaby aimed at putting black women to sleep as they foolishly accept the bare minimum amount of respect from white women that are groomed to hold entitlement complexes that make black women expendable in their world...but black women should be happy to see white women smile, right? That movie is nothing but a Public Relations effort to put a smiling, pretty white female face on racism. It's called 'sympathetic racism" and white women are the masters of it, saving black kids, saving troubled schools- but they raise white men.  I wonder would this movie be as popular if a black daughter of one of the maids set out to tell the stories of black maids in the south? Imagine that. A young black woman, out to become a writer and move to the big city who decides to tell her mother's and aunties stories by way of a book called The Help. What do you think?

Friday, July 1, 2011


I admit it.  I was rooting for this ho.  WTF???  In my book "Poor Ho, Rich Ho", I talk about shit like this.  If you haven't heard or seen the very graphic news, Ms. Amber Rose has some nude pics running loose on the 'net.  Media Takeout posted these pics.

When I first heard I laughed this off because it's a common public relations move for reality tv and "model chicks" to leak graphic pics over the web and then attach some sort of scandalous reason how and why the leak occurred.   For instance, my initial theory was that Amber noticed her mass appeal with her audience changing, more hatred was coming her way.  What propelled her to semi-celebrity status was her obvious sex appeal, dating Kanye West, breaking up with Kanye West then dating another known rapper- she was a groupie's role model.  To remind us all of her sensual prowess I figured she might have leaked these pics, acted shocked, got her new rap boyfriend to tell the world via twitter that he loves her and will stand by her no matter what, to prove a ho can keep a man.  Another case of the hos winning, right?

Possibly wrong.  Allegedly Amber Rose was attempting to lure Nicki Minaj's boyfriend into her ho spell about two years ago and actually sent him pics of herself to his phone- which Nicki Minaj actually discovered.  If that's true, it appears that Amber was trying to score a silent win over one of the most popular female rappers since Lil' Kim.  To lure Nicki Minaj's man into her fold on the low, get away with it, bag a new rapper and then use the info later to build on her sexual allure would have been a power ho move on Amber's part.  If she'd succeeded, she would have actually built more social leverage to add to her ho-turned-semi-celebrity status.  In all fairness, some of the most popular male stars are hos and get plenty of credit for their conquests, Amber (much like Karinne) is challenging the double standard- a pioneerin' go-getter!

Yet one thing can haunt these sorts of women.  They sometimes lack good judgment and strategic insight.  For all you up-and-coming vixens take heed, always be in control of your picture leaks.  Bikinis, thongs, maybe topless shots are always acceptable because you can get paid to model those parts in magazines and videos.  The true commodity isn't what you reveal, it's what's left to imagine.  Once the mystery is gone, the illusion is gone and the suspension of disbelief is ruined- you become another naked, dumb ho that got played.  Not good for business.

Rose's supposed response to this "leak" is that someone she trusted with access to her laptop leaked the photos.  Maybe, maybe not- regardless, she didn't want those pics to get her what she got next- allegedly dropped, released, dismissed by CAA.

For those of you unfamiliar with CAA (Creative Artist Agency), it's one of the largest and best talent agencies in entertainment.  Once you sign with these people, you can really build an artistic career, they're truly insiders to "the business."  To possibly fuck that up is just plain dumb.  What probably caused it?  Read carefully:

1.  Hos always take naked pics.  Po hos take naked pics revealing their faces, Rich hos never take personal naked pics with their faces showing if they don't want to ever be outed with true nude pics.

2.  Save the best for last.  If you make money being a sensual tease, keep it simple and somewhat discreet.  Draw a very thick line between your public image and your personal life.  Example, the world can see you in a thong but only your man can see you naked...even hos need standards!

3.  Less is more.  Even in a salacious culture, mystery keeps the public coming back.

My advice to Amber Rose?  Hire me as your public relations expert.

I'd have you do the following 4 things:

1. Stop apologizing, it reveals that your game slipped up.  Plenty of detractors want to see you fail and beg for mercy, don't give them the satisfaction.  Besides, you will never make your anti-fans happy no matter what, don't provide them fuel to laugh at your misfortune.   You can be a ho, but don't be a dumb one crying for sympathy.
2.  Another talent agency will want you, publicize it loudly and quickly.  That shows you are still in demand.
3.  Embrace your sexual appeal.  Release a statement that you represent talented, attractive women that are not shy about their sexual prowess but do value relationships with strong men that can handle your energy.  This makes your man look like a someone who is not a fool and knows what he's dealing with.
4.  Your goods are spilled but not ruined.  Start fielding offers from the top adult entertainment magazines and video productions- but turn them all down publicly.  Then take a gig doing something that requires you to speak intelligently and engage the public differently.  They will watch to see if you fail.  You must succeed.  You will gain a newfound respect if you don't show shame, stay focused and deliver something unexpected.  If you fail, hit the poles at the nearest strip club, your booking fees there will be good no matter what!

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Where Women Eye the New Pimp Game: A "Ho" in America Would be a "Socialite" in the Un...

Where Women Eye the New Pimp Game: A "Ho" in America Would be a "Socialite" in the Un...: "Recently I had a friendly debate with an intriguing woman. 'I went to a very conservative college but I was raised in a more sexually liber..."

A "Ho" in America Would be a "Socialite" in the United Kingdom

Recently I had a friendly debate with an intriguing woman.  "I went to a very conservative college but I was raised in a more sexually liberated environment, so after I'd slept with more than 3 guys at the same college, I was known as one of the campus hos!"

This woman then raised a valid question in our conversation: "Is promiscuity largely defined by the social norms, beliefs and values of specific groups, cultures, races and gender?  If so, is it fair to label a woman a ho in one social circle or culture when in another more progressive environment she would be the norm?"

To me, she raised a powerful question.

So much so that I began looking into how other countries define promiscuity.  In America during the 70s, 80s, 90s and early 2000 I believe that the infamous double standard was in full play.  For example, if a man slept with 10 women, he's deemed a playboy.  By contrast, if a woman slept with 10 different men, she'd be labeled a "ho" by men and shunned by other women.

However, with the rise of video vixens, sexy reality television stars, celebrity groupies that bed celebrities- what was once simply "ho" behavior is unofficially morphing into the rebel movement to destroy the infamous double standard.  Simply put, the hos are winning now.  But not without backlash. I'm of the opinion that people (especially women) love to hate women like Kim Kardashian, Amber Rose, Karinne Stephans, Kat Stacks, Evelyn Lozada and other modern female media sex symbols because such women are not "in line" with fearing or being controlled by the age old double standard.

Women that have tried to "be good girls" and even subscribed to and obeyed the double standard set by men, do not want hos to win!  Kim Kardashian gets engaged and there is a huge number of women and men on pens and needles hoping another recent sex tape emerges with her cheating on her fiancee.  Amber Rose goes from Kanye West to Wiz Khalifa and everyone wants to see her finally unable to pull another celebrity boyfriend.  Karinne Stephans writes 2 bestsellers based on her real life sexual escapades and she's now categorized as a has-been ho with no real talent.  Kat Stacks bagged a number of rappers and she's been damn near exiled to prison!!!  Evelyn is probably the most evil pretty woman on reality television but she's nabbed Ocho and most viewers are watching to see when someone is gonna finally slap the mess out of her.  Pimpin is hard but bein' a ho ain't no joke either.

Most women don't want to see the so-called or alleged "ho" be rewarded for defying the rule of the infamous double standard.

All this fuss made me wonder how the rest of the world might view hos in America.  I read this article back in 2008 titled, "Britain on Top in Casual Sex League" that described a research study conducted at Bradley University in Illinois.  The study was conducted by asking 14000 people in 48 different countries to fill out an anonymous questionnaire.  Respondents were asked about numbers of partners and one night stands, and their attitudes were assessed by asking them how many people they planned to sleep with over the next five years and how comfortable they were with the idea of casual sex.  In all, the United Kingdom, Germany, Netherlands, Czech Republic and Australia all scored higher on the promiscuity scale than the United States!  Damn.  Are the hos in those 5 countries on some other level ho hoppin'?  Or are our standards and definitions around promiscuity and sexuality simply narrow minded and outdated?

I think the later.

Don't be so hard on the hos.  Perhaps we all need to put things into context and stop thinking that our way of thinking makes the world go 'round.  Seems that the U.K. could give two shits about what Americans think of super groupie Chris O'Dell.  A ho in America would simply be an upscale Socialite in the UK.  That's kinda cool.  

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Where Women Eye the New Pimp Game: 10 Ways to Know You're a Po' Dumb Ho If....

Where Women Eye the New Pimp Game: 10 Ways to Know You're a Po' Dumb Ho If....: "1. All your relationships end tragically because of your cheating, risque photos or videos sent to your unsuspecting man, or flat out gettin..."

10 Ways to Know You're a Po' Dumb Ho If....

1. All your relationships end tragically because of your cheating, risque photos or videos sent to your unsuspecting man, or flat out getting caught being a ho.

2.  You have more than one baby daddy and both men swear you are a ho.
3.  You are known as a ho by more than two groups of male friends who have all had their turn between  your legs.
4.  You have had phone sex for free with more than two men.
5.  Men know your name before you open your mouth and attempt to get you drunk or high before you've known them even 24 hours.
6.  You are cheating on a broke man for richer men, but still come home to your broke man empty handed.
7.  Whenever you hear the names Kardashian, Amber Rose, CoCo, Karinne Stephans or Evelyn and you cringe, not because of moral reservations, but you know you missed the chance to do what they did!
8.  Old boyfriends meet you years later and can still get you to do some ho' shit within 24- 72 hours.
9.  You start getting action from guys that were below your league years before, but 2 - 3 kids later with no man and no money- you'd kill for one of those tech or science nerds you dismissed in high school for the basketball and football players all now married to better women than you.
10.  You have to get a payday loan to buy tickets to fly to Miami, Atlanta, Los Angeles, Las Vegas or new York to go to a VIP Party full of celebrities and athletes in order to invest in your future.

Monday, June 20, 2011

One Love?

Women cheat.  Men cheat.  Marriages fail.  Relationships fall apart.  Working in this nightlife not only affords me good times, money, travel opportunities and the company of intriguing personalities, I often witness married men and sometimes women stray from their partners.  Surprisingly, even what appears to be the most devout married couple could very well indeed be more than meets our eyes.  Like most Americans, I was introduced to the concept of monogamy at birth.  One women, one man, loyalty and faithfulness was packaged and sold to me and millions of other men and women.

To their credit, some people actually are fulfilled by monogamy.  To them, I congratulate the same way that I applaud people who have managed to find happiness in plural relationships.  Yes, the very idea and reality of multiple partners is alive and well in more places than "common folk" would ever imagine.  Unfortunately, the majority of such plural arrangements are either hidden to monogamous eyes or deemed fantastical swinging or open relationships- frequently labeled perverse by self-righteous monogamists.

Yet cheating is as common among traditional relationships as love triangles exist in plural arrangements.  What do I mean by relationship plurality?  One man is attached to more than one "aware" woman.  By aware I mean that the women are aware they are committed to the same man, know of or even befriend one another, and are consenting to the plurality of the arrangement.  Sure polygamy is not legal in America, but that does not mean that consenting adults are breaking the law while having plural relationships.  Of course, in all fairness a woman could be committed to men that are aware they are sharing one woman as well.  Not exactly my preference, but to be fair, such arrangements are possible too.

The main question is, why would anyone, male or female, subscribe to a plural relationship?

More to come...

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Exotic = Black = Bullshit

To all my readers, my sincerest apologies for my brief absence.  I've been busier than ever.  From Miami to Atlanta to Los Angeles and now I'm back in Chicago.  The nightclub business is alive and well and I've been putting together a new team of dancers to do traveling shows under the Lair Haven banner.  In short, business is booming.

Funny thing though, I am somewhat agitated.

Sometimes I observe mainstream media and listen to "everyday people" discuss what is sexy or beautiful.  Kim Kardashian is known for her big booty.  Coco, the wife of Ice-T, is known for her big booty.  Angelina Jolie has those trademarked big lips.  Jessica Alba and Jessica Biel both have curvy bodies.  The list of caucasian or non-black women that have been elevated to statuses of sex symbols and make mainstream dollars goes on and one.  Yet for every snow bunny with a booty and big lips I can name a black woman with equal or better physical features.

Still, even in 2011, black models/actresses/performers don't make as much money as white or non-black models/dancers.  You mean to tell me that someone as sexy as Megan Good does not compare to Megan Fox of the Transformers?  Someone like Zoe Saldona does not compare to Angelina Jolie or Natalie Portman?  

Even in the adult film industry, most of the female performers like Tara Patrick, Sasha Grey, Naomi, Bree Olsen and Jenna Haze clock millions.  While top ebony video vixens and performers Jada Fire, Vanessa Blue, Lacey Duvalle, Pinky, Kitten and  Ayana Angel never really achieve the mainstream status like Tara Patrick, Jenna Jameson, or Kendra the Playboy Chick.  Obviously all of these women are physically attractive.  Psychological complications aside, all of them would get a rise of of any man attracted to sensual ladies with extraordinary sexual drives.

My assertion is this: many of the white actresses/performers gain fame and higher booking fees because they have exotic physical features not always found on the typical white girl like bigger booties, boobs, hips and lips, all of which can be found on most black women.

In other words, a white girl with a black girl's booty will make more money than a black girl with a black girl's booty and a black girl with white girl features- it's a fact.  Is it fair?  Fuck no!

Trust me, I've been breaking in and managing female entertainers long enough to compare their earnings and for me, my effectiveness is measured in dollars.  I've watched plenty of big bootied blondes and brunette white dames from places like Texas, Alabama, Atlanta and Florida come into strip joints and clean the floor with black chicks on tips alone!  I've witnessed black dancers/performers try to make a living off catering to only black audiences and even those with solid fan bases never reach the same financial status as the white or non-black chicks that usually hold down both black audiences and non-black fans.  So for me the equation is simple, female performers that want to secure top billings and reach mainstream status have to have a core audience and cross-over appeal to maximize their profits.

Still, white and latina women have an easier time crossing over and still keeping their core fans- but I'm positive it's because they are not black women.  The ebony females that are dancers or adult film stars that make real money do  have solid black fan bases.  Eventually, the ladies that want to collect higher fees and gain cross-over appeal begin to work the white boy circuit, sometimes the black men that previously supported their work do not keep supporting- the same way that many of the top white female adult entertainers do not film interracial scenes if they have a huge white fan base of white boys that don't always want to see their white porn star with a big black dick.  Yes, racism exist even in the sex industry- crazy, right?  I don't blame the performers, I blame history and the hypocrisy of society.

A white chick with "exotic" features can make more money off her "exotic" features than a black girl can just being herself.  That's some bullshit, straight-up.

As a modern day libertine, I don't discriminate but I don't make up my own facts either.  Money is money and I keep my stable of female performers and hustlers as diverse as an underground fetish carnival of freaks, it is what it is.

Monday, April 4, 2011

10 Things "Regular Women" Can Learn From Amber Rose!

1. Less is more.  While her looks impact the eyes of onlookers, how much has she really stated about her own life and motives for engaging the public.
2. Speak no evil.  Sure, we've seen her with many different men, but have we heard her side of the interactions?
3.  Show no pain.  Let's face it, as many men admire Amber, just as many women despise her and criticize her every move.  Yet she shows no reaction- cold blooded and poised.
4.  No apologies.  Take negatives, turn them into positives.  So what if if you're a hood rat, it is what it is, what else you gotta say?  Critics are only empowered when their targets show that they actually give a fuck about what they have to say.
5.  Smile.  Look happy as much as possible, people love to despise happiness and will continue to watch happiness in hopes that it will become tragedy.  Jealousy can fuel careers.
6.  Never conform.  People like long hair, cut it off.  People think bright lip stick is slutty, wear it anyway.  People fear nudity, cover only the bare necessities.  Be a woman, dress like a boy, flaunt like a tease and strip like a lady.  Contradiction is the key to interesting hypocrisy.
7.  Aim high.  Want the top men, go for it without shame.  Have nothing to hide.  That way when you get your target, no one can say it was through deception.  After all, no one forces these men to accept her.
8.  Have a secret plan.  Let people think you're an idiot, but let the right people know that you are not.  That way, when you keep getting your way, those that doubted keep doubting, watching, waiting for your demise only to be fed with success after success.  Again, jealousy can fuel a career.
9.  Embrace rumors but never respond too much.  No press is bad press when you act oblivious to the press.  Keep living and the press will follow, just deliver win after win.
10. Don't apologize for looking better than most women.  To be a sex symbol, sell the illusion of sex in ways that average women wish they could.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Where Women Eye the New Pimp Game: The Truth Does Not Have to Hurt...Poor Ho, Rich Ho...

Where Women Eye the New Pimp Game: The Truth Does Not Have to Hurt...Poor Ho, Rich Ho...: "Poor Ho, Rich Ho closed in on bestseller status in less than 3 months. What this says about the current state of our capitalistic cult..."

The Truth Does Not Have to Hurt...Poor Ho, Rich Ho reaches Best Seller Status!

Poor Ho, Rich Ho closed in on bestseller status in less than 3 months.  What this says about the current state of our capitalistic culture is that the truth does not always have to hurt.  All the women that have purchased the book come from various walks of life but have one thing in common- they understand what it means to embrace harsh truths without becoming hardened.  As a nightlife minx handler, I can respect this.

What types of women embrace this book?

Women that understand what it means to get the most out of their opportunities without sacrificing parts of themselves they can never get back.  The long and short of it?  Women that know how to give-take-and-manipulate-for-goodness-sake.

Get your copy today!  

Thursday, March 17, 2011

The Ho Mentality...Loneliness at the Top

Bottom lines.  Outcomes.  Winning or losing.  To a ho, that's what counts.  What about actions?  What about morality?  What about social consciousness?

The life of a ho is lonely.  Even when the life is cushioned with financial rewards, glamorized by envious onlookers and exploitative voyeurs, the life of a ho is still desolate at times.  In silence, the ho ponders, "How long should I live this way?  What am I really getting out of all this?  What would my mother or father say?"

Answers to such musings come and then go, like clients.  Rushes of shame, guilt and even paranoia infest the daydreams and nightmares of sleeping hos on the darkest nights when we slumber alone, for a change.  Solitude is the gift and curse to a ho.

But when it's all said and done, such freedom to be is supposed to be rare.  Exclusivity can be lonely.  After all, who dares wear the cloak of capitalism with such flair?  Unashamed, holding the dangling chains of so-called justice and morality in one hand and a wad of credit cards and folded dollar bills in the other, the ho stands naked like a perverted messiah at the mercy of the erotic courts of hidden desires.  Indulged by all, claimed by few, the ho knows what many say and do in truth but has been sanctioned by a gag order.  The gods forbid that aspiring gods get exposed as mere humans.

So the ho rests, holding the sexual betrayals of the righteous the way robed priests harbor confessions of the fallen.  Yes, the ho mentality can be lonely.  But no more lonely than the wife of a married man on vacation with his mistress or the single independent woman sitting alone in her living room watching romantic comedies and reading self-help books.

I guess that's why us hos shop so much, right?

Friday, March 11, 2011

The Fine Line...Poor Ho, Rich Ho breaks the Silence!

There's just a "way to do things."  As varying degrees of just about anything exists, such is the world that I dwell in.  There's a difference between walking, jogging, running and even sprinting.  Pace or speed differentiates this.

Clear distinctions are difficult to come by in the game that isn't a game.  A stripper versus an exotic dancer, a model versus a spokesperson, an escort versus a date, a ho versus a promiscuous woman- how are these distinctions made?

As I open the dialogue between my world and that of people that have assumed far too long that a clear distinction exists, I've met both positive and negative reactions to "Poor Ho, Rich Ho: Modern Women of The New Pimp Game."

Such is the "fine line" between self-awareness versus self-deception.  Women that have read the book cover to cover understood and even embraced the underlying message conveyed (which I'll reserve for women that have purchased the controversial title).  But some women that have not read the book yet, have a knee-jerk reaction to the title itself.  "Hos lose in the end."  "Hos will never end up happy."  "Hos get paid to have sex, I don't believe in that."  Admittedly, I've received so many emails and responses that echo defensiveness and even sheer denial.

Some of these women even told me, "I can't believe you're selling this book!"

Yet these same "ladies" purchase music that glorifies sex, drugs, pimpin', womanizing, stripping and hustling.  These same "ladies" go to nightclubs, dance as well or even better than professional exotic dancers.  These same "ladies" dress like strippers, date like escorts, chase material things like gold diggers, and can be seen in the audience of any rap concert or sex crazed R & B singer.  Hell, some of these same woman can be found screaming and passing out at your nearest church!  But "Poor Ho, Rich Ho: Modern Women of The New Pimp Game" gets under their precious, flawless skin?

Dare I say it?  "There's just a way to do things."  "It's not what you do, it's how you do it."  Such crafty sayings are the razor thin line that differentiates real women from hos, right?  Such sayings are also what what separates dumb hos from smart hos.

The only thing some women are upset about is that "Poor Ho, Rich Ho" exposes the dirty little secret of undercover hos that have been skating by with their noses in the air hoping that no one sees them slipping out the back door of the club getting into a limo headed back to the hotel- for free.  Don't get me wrong, I expected the controversy.  It's part of the ongoing process.  In fact, the women that have read and understand the book will be joining me in a good laugh later.  What's clear is that women are harder on each other than any womanizer or pimp will ever be.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

The Irony of The Pimp Game's Dirty Little Secret

Shhhh, don't say it aloud.  After all, sex should not sell.  The pimp game that is not a game has a dirty little secret: women with dual personalities.

Uncommitted, brilliant and articulate upholders of morally upstanding ways of womanhood, these women are judge and jury for all fallen women to worship.  Loyal followers of preachers on Sundays and masters of the "drop it like it's hot" moves on Saturday nights at the same clubs that many of the "jump-offs, groupies and hot girls"shake for green papered rain, these women have all the answers.  They can show a ho how to put on lipstick that doesn't get smeared no matter how many exclusive, worthy dicks rub across their double-speaking mouths.

Yes, the women with dual personalities know how to pose in bikini's next to your favorite rappers cars, show up at celebrity events dressed like strippers and present their "tease-only" package as a demonstration of what real classy women look like.  Amazingly, somehow when they try to convince the rich, playboy womanizer that he needs to not "date hos, groupies and disgraceful women" their short skirts and extra high heels don't get in the way of their holy message of female empowerment and redemption.  In fact, they only dress like exotic dancers to get the attention of the men surrounded by real erotic entertainers- in order to demonstrate that there's "more to them than meets the eye."

May the pimp game thank these persistent sisters of "ho-not-ho culture" for their ability to call people like Kim Kardashian, Amber Rose, Karrine Stephans, Lisa "Golden Girl" Natson, Kat Stacks, Carmen Bryan, all of Tiger Wood's hos- shameful women with low self esteem and a discredit to all women.  Without these lady protectors of female dignity, we would not know how a woman can exhibit ho behavior but get appalled by the notion that she's anything like the previously mentioned women.

Thankfully the phrases of "independent woman", "woman with her own" and the ability to "do what I gotta do" exist as useful punchlines for these lady chameleons.  I even had one tell me, "To each his own.  I don't have anything against escorts, strippers, groupies or hos- one of my best friends is an escort.  I'm just not trying to be identified with that lifestyle."

I looked at her in her red miniskirt and glanced at her tattoo on her thigh (a stripper's pole) and said to her, "Yeah, I understand.  To each his own.  It's all in how you do things in this life."

"Yeah, that's right!" She smiled and strutted away.  Like I've always said, there's nothing like a classy woman.


Tuesday, March 8, 2011

What Men With Money and Power Want From Women...

The candid new book Poor Ho, Rich Ho has become an intriguing discussion topic in numerous online forums and sparked conversation around a very important underlying question:

"What do men with money and power want from women?"

Crossing paths with many financially stable men and ambitious women, I've seen the extremes of needs/wants on both sides of this topic.  Which leads me to ultimately conclude that two major factors must be considered before anyone can answer such a broad question.

Factor 1: An individual's personal beliefs, values and standards related to relationships is the starting place.

Factor 2: When individuals bring Factor 1 into contact with others, the compatibility between parties dictates whether or not the prospective relationship satisfies the couple's definition of fulfillment.

Considering the previous two factors, when rich men enter the dating game, what surrounding women must take into account are the two factors mentioned- for themselves first.

Meaning that a woman's "Factor 1" helps a rich men assess this question: What type of woman is she?

In turn, the man will also know the answer already regarding this question: What type of man am I?

Sticking with Factor 1 for a moment, as you can see by now, endless variations of answers can result because every man and woman is different.  Regardless of our personal perspectives and opinions on or about people, "to each his own" is not just a cliche for no reason.  A female doctor may eyeball a female pop singer and say, "She's immoral and stands for the wrong thing- disgusting!"  Yet that same female doctor may be open to dating the exact same man that the pop singer wants as well.  Rich men encounter such diverse scenarios all the time because men with means will see both these women at the same event, possibly dressed in attention-getting outfits.  Yet they are clearly two different types of women.  Who would this man choose to court or deal with?

The answer depends on numerous factors that have much do with the following question that enters the minds of rich men routinely:

"What type of woman is this and how does she fit into what I am looking for today?"

Timing is the most overlooked factor when issues about relationships are discussed.  If you're wondering how a woman deemed a "ho" or "gold digger" somehow secured the interest of a quality gentleman, it's all about timing.  The more chances a woman takes to cross paths with opportunities, increased are the odds of taking part in the perfect moment.

Of course, keen eyes will pinpoint a crucial detail in the last question.  "TODAY."  Just because a rich man wants a ho today does not mean he'll want her in the morning, right?

True indeed, as human nature and life issues eventually will become a concern.  Yet how a relationship starts does not dictate how it will endure or end, especially if communication takes place in a manner where both parties can explore their level of compatibility.

Men with money and power already have material security.  Keep in mind they encounter all sorts of propositions from established professional women, groupies, strippers, etc.  A key component must be considered- men with power did not acquire power without taking risks.  Their mindsets are often more open to new things, alternative strategies and turning what appears to be nothing into something- they are often "builders."

What rich men look for are women that are not only comfortable with their own "Factor 1 Reality", but women that know how to bring their own truth into another's reality in a way that supplements what they both feel is a good relationship for them.

I chuckle at women that simply don't want to accept that being "independent and self-sufficient" does not have to exclude men.  Some women really do need a man to be happy.  What's wrong with that?  Not everyone is meant to be strong and alone just as not everyone is made to be a successful business person or politician.  Women with too much to prove also display major insecurities about being vulnerable in ways that women who are not ashamed of needing men do not.  So what do rich men want from women?

Ladies that are not ashamed to be vulnerable, honest and most of all, interesting and friendly.  As long as a woman is comfortable with her answers for Factors 1 and 2, she will be comfortable being vulnerable, honest, interesting and friendly.  Not to say all "regular" women don't understand this fact, but it's been my experience that women living the fast life understand what rich men want and are willing to support such wants and needs- while "regular women are busy lecturing these men about "what they should" versus what they actually want.

I had a woman comment once, "Would President Obama date a ho, stripper or slutty woman?"

To that I say, we have no idea how Michelle gets down with her hubby.  What makes people think that educated, high performing members of society that have achieved admirable success beyond the reach of most people- don't get off on something?

"A woman in the streets but a freak in the bed" is a saying based on the premise of "balance."  How much a woman can balance her "lady" and "inner ho" is key.  Some men want more "ho" than lady, some want more lady than "ho."  What rich men want is a woman that won't try to force him to choose one over the other!

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Is There a Double Standard Among Women?

It appears that women grant men more forgiveness when it comes to capitalism.  A man that reaches for the stars, defeats detractors, aims high and can't be detoured into failure is deemed as "relentless" and "unstoppable."  People will admire him, women will be available to him and if he captures the hearts and bodies of such women, he's a "man's man" or even a player.

Ironically, if women are "relentless" and "unstoppable" as they strut toward their goals and weave through the land of capitalism, they will not only face the double standards imposed by men- but other women as well.  Successful female go-getters that have positioned themselves as sex symbols face such scrutiny.  The hypocritical double standard pushed by men is well documented, no need to review it.  But what's not discussed often enough are "uncommitted hos" versus "Committed hos."  What I mean is, a woman will dress provocatively, roam in influential circles where rich men shop, play and court attention.  Yet even though this woman is dressed like a groupie, stripper, erotic dancer, escort or female hustler- she does not want to be seen as a "gold digger" or ho.

Sure appearances do not expose a woman's entire package, but if a woman wore risque nightclub attire to a funeral or children's school play she'd look out of place, right?  Even if such a woman stood up and proclaimed, "Just because I'm dressed like this doesn't mean that I'm a ho.  I have the freedom to wear whatever I like."  Technically, she'd be correct.  Socially, she'd be seen as "inappropriate" and "tacky."

So why do uncommitted hos, a.k.a. "ladies" try to enter the same circles as video groupies, strippers and exotic dancers, escorts and gold diggers dressed exactly alike and vying for the same rich and powerful men- yet don't want their behavior to be viewed as "whoring?"

Humor me for a moment.  If I walked up to a duck standing with other ducks, and then said, "What a cute duck."  But then one of the ducks barks like a dog, aside from possibly needing therapy, I'd be surprised that a duck barked like a dog.  It would make me wonder, "Why does a dog appear as a duck?  Why not appear  as a dog?"

So why do ladies dress like the hos they despise, roam in circles where so-called hos play then call effective, profitable hos "disgraceful women" that "will lose in the long run"?

Are "regular women" in denial about their own motives?  Are "regular women" using ho-like appearances to get their foot in the door with rich men- bait and switch?  Are regular women hoping they will somehow upstage legitimate hos with their morals?

I'm of the opinion that one should not enter to play a game without first knowing the rules, practicing and accepting the game itself.  Furthermore, if a duck looks like a duck in real life- it probably is or at least has a little bit of duck in it.  Poor Ho, Rich Ho...the reluctant truth has arrived HERE.

Friday, March 4, 2011

Short Term vs. Long Term Gain, Are Female "Gold Diggers" Winning?

"Hoes always appear to be winning, they are definitely not especially in the long run," I read on a message board in response to a message I posted which stated: "the hos are winning while the good women are sitting."

Followed by similar responses, I read carefully.  In my mind I thought, it's easy for lesser go-getters to malign, belittle or even condemn successful libertines that secure a pay day or arm of a wealthy suitor.  It's even easier for women outside of the fast-paced lifestyle of strip clubs, escort services, gold digging networks and groupie culture to say, "These women are playing themselves, they'll never meet a quality man!"

Yet if you really think about it, the "gold diggers" hustling in my world are probably more honest than women outside of the lifestyle.  Consider this:

  • Regular women want men than can provide, love and respect them within the parameters of how the relationship has been defined by the people involved...go-getters want men that are proven breadwinners to accept companionship within the parameters of how each defines love, respect and a union- what's the difference?
  • Regular women don't want to date losers, unemployed or chronically trouble men...neither do "gold diggers" - what's the difference?
  • Regular women get cheated on, have fatherless children and deal with men that do not always help them overcome their personal issues, financial problems or raise children- free of charge.  "Gold diggers" seek to make sure their breadwinner can deal with the consequences of failed relationships.  What's the difference?                                                                                                           ANSWER: Regular women have less to show for their efforts if relationships fail, while "gold diggers" can pay for a new start...makes sense to me.  What's wrong with women making themselves available to men that have proven to be stellar providers?  

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Controversial Underground Book Teaches Women How to Profit in New Pimp Game

Kim Kardashian did it.  Amber Rose did it.  Karinne Stephans did it.  For every female business woman, social activist, academic or politician there is a nearly equally influential, more risque version of female empowerment in the public eye.  Undeniable sex symbols are finding their voices in this modern day uprising that is the New Pimp Game.  In short, it appears that the "hos are winning" while the so-called good women are sitting!

A controversial new underground book titled "Poor Ho, Rich Ho: Modern Women of The New Pimp Game" outlines the strategic and unorthodox methods used by the most contemporary capitalistic libertine of this time, Lair Haven.  Offering a blueprint to riches to aspiring women of sensual intrique, Lair Haven says what few know, many think but won't say and what only women with pure "go-getter" natures can embrace.  While every woman can't profit in the flesh trade, accoring to Lair Haven's book "every woman has a ho in her.  To what degree determines what lifestyle she lives."  Poor Ho or Rich Ho?

You can decide HERE!

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Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Female Hustlers Find Their Own Discussion Forum

"I don't buy self-help books or dating advice books.  Those kinds of books aren't written for women like me," Libby told me.  Her statement got me thinking as I sat on the sofa at a private party I was hosting at a hotel in Chicago.  Sipping on cognac, listening to Libby rant about how there are so many strippers, video models, adult entertainers, mistresses and other so-called "women of the night" that really are ok with the fact they're branded by morally self-righteous women as "bad girls."

Twirling the red straw back and forth against the rim of her cocktail glass, she said, "Believe it or not, most of the gals in this lifestyle accept the realities that come along with getting paid to be some guy's fantasy for a spell, dating married men or being objectified to some extent.  We just try to make the most of it.  What would be cool is if gals like me had someone we could go to when we want advice on how to navigate through this circus."

Sure I was slightly buzzed from my cognac, but I wasn't too far gone at all.  I've travelled from the east to the west coast and landed in the midwest and have seen every sort of female flesh hustler imaginable.  A firm understanding of their world is well within my grasp. The truth is, these libertines come in all shapes and sizes, often engage in some unique relationship arrangements and always seem to come to me with questions like:

  • How do I tell my new boyfriend that I'm an erotic dancer?
  • I met this married man that fits my lifestyle, how do I make it work?
  • My husband gets off on watching me dance with other men, how do I make sure I put on a good show?
  • I want to leverage my dancing career into more lucrative opportunities, how do I do it?
  • What's the best way to market myself, so that I can charge higher booking fees?
  • How do I read men better so that I can get them to do what I want?  
  • How can I befriend the wife of my boyfriend and persuade her to be ok with sharing her husband with me?                                                    
I've heard millions of questions from genuine "fantasy" experts and regular women doing things they're too ashamed to go public with and they sincerely wanted objective advice, so I gave it.  Turns out, I was so good at it, they kept coming back.  I had more to say, so I wrote a book too (more on that later).

I suppose this blog is for women that are living on the edge of insanity but love the pay and want to make the most of their time maximizing their sex appeal while it lasts.  Regular chicks can watch Oprah, but all the rest of you knowingly compromised, yet saavy women have me...I'm open for business!